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Love and the art of Divorce

on March 16, 2010

Relationships can be easy, difficult, painful, joyful, and essential.  The one thing they cannot be is avoided.  It is in our nature to love and care for others.  If you will remember we talked before about the nature of all relationships being with the One, Holy Spirit, God.  The ego mind tries to create the illusion of separation and thus comes the pain and difficulty we have with relationships.

Marriage is basically an acknowledgement of the oneness that exists always.  Two people who are attracted decide to share in the journey of love.  They make a commitment to stand beside each other no matter what and to share all that each has to offer.  This is done in the presence of God, because God is all there is!  So whether the ceremony is conducted in a church, court house or park Spirit is present and witnesses this bond. 

The nature of the world we live in is ego mind.  Separation is being thrown at us at every turn, so it is little wonder that not all marriages last.  The rules we impose on each other are contrary to our nature as animals and as Spirits.  Monogamous, Heterosexual, relationships with biological family must be our lifestyle! 

I am here to remind you that the rules are simply made up and can be changed.  There is no right or wrong in life, only what feels joyful or not.  When we surrender to the flow of Spirit we are guided on the path we intended before we embarked on this human adventure.  Love is the way!

Sometimes marriages do not last and that is OK.  There is no rule that says we must take only one partner per lifetime.  You decide what is right for you!  Divorce does not have to be ugly. 

Marriage is two people looking in the same direction, sharing common goals.  If that changes then divorce can be the best choice.  While this needs to be considered deeply once the decision is made mutually, moving on can be as easy as walking away.  Love does not have to be abandoned!  Just because two people divorce does not mean they stop loving each other.  It means their paths are heading in different directions. 

I encourage you to take your time and keep love by your side always and all ways.  This means that you love everyone in your life whether you know them or not.   Do not leave your partner in anger or frustration and instead stay long enough to work through your feelings.  What you give, you receive.  Keep this in mind as you decide how you will approach divorce.  Marriage is a 50/50 arrangement so when it comes to dividing that, keep it as equal as possible.  Attachment is the root to all pain and suffering and the more you insist (resist) the worse it will be. 

When the right (for you) decision is being made things will flow and fall into place without struggle.  Pain is natural (because you are releasing an attachment) so do not focus on this, but instead focus on the possibilities to fulfill your purpose here on earth.  Love is our nature, so just be yourself and love will flow whether you are divorcing or marrying!  🙂 Sequoia Elisabeth

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