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Self Talk

on April 4, 2010

Your greatest tool and worst bandit.  In a way this Blog is self talk, lol.  What are you saying to your self?  The voice within our head is what I call your ego voice or man’s voice.  This is the voice which is easy to hear and does not want to shut up! 

Whether you listen to this voice is up to you.  And by listen I mean act on the advice the ego doles out.  When I act on this voice and sometimes I do, it is with as much awareness as I can muster.  By shining the light of awareness on ego actions we can nullify the negative effects much the same as done when we forgive our transgressors.  It is like shining a light into a dark room without placing judgment on what we see. 

With conscious effort you can guide your self-talk to take you where you wish to be instead of being at ego’s whim.  If the ego is telling you something you would prefer not to hear then choose something else.  Many of us do this by listening to music or watching TV.  The other ways are by creating something, making dinner, painting, playing games, and anything that occupies the mind. 

Some people slip into the negative realm when they attempt to escape this ego voice by outside means such as alcohol, tobacco, marijuana, and harder drugs.  Any activity that is destructive is considered the negative realm and while it is not bad, (nothing is bad or good lest you say it so) it does lead down a long dead end street.  There are many twists and turns down this road and it is easy to get lost. 

Finding your way back can be done with help and on a rare occasion it can be done alone.  From my earlier teachings, what you focus on grows.  This means that the further you venture down that destructive road the longer the trip home is.  Self talk is one of those things that will lead you down that road if you are not consciously aware. 

What I am suggesting here is to use that same self talk as a tool to bring yourself home.  By focusing on the positive and constructive our lives are transformed.  Complement yourself constantly and speak favorably of your self as often as you can.  Do this even with others, just be careful not to boast (boasting is negative and makes you feel bad afterward).  Look in the mirror and tell that lovely person that you love them.  I love You.  Focus on what you enjoy.  Find things to do that are fun!  Sometimes we must do things that are not so much fun, and that is ok, still tell yourself that it is only temporary and that you can handle anything.  Life is going to throw us curve balls and it is up to us whether we re-act from fear or act from love.

Make a list of all your best features and traits, make a list of what you enjoy doing, and remember to focus on the positive.  If sometimes you slip then restate in the positive and go right on with your life.  Forgive, forget and stay positive! 

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

Unity in Gender Diversity

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