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Is It Time?

on April 6, 2010

How do I know I am ready to transition?  What do you think about when you wake up in the morning?  What are you thinking about when you go to bed?  Are you thinking about it all through the day?  In this case you probably already have started your transition.  I of course am speaking of transitioning from male to female or female to male in order to express ones gender identity.

Many people who are not transgender ask the question, why do you need to transition at all?  To many TG’s the answer is obvious but let me just clarify.  Being transgender is living a lie unless we can express ourselves as who we truly are.  We need to transition as much as anyone needs to be understood and loved!  If you can imagine going through life without love, never being understood, not being able to express your ideas, and not being able to live your visions and dreams, then you know what it is like to not transition. 

There is an energy expressing in us, through us, as us and to withhold that energy is impossible.  It must be released or the person dies, or harms another.  It really is very simple, are you being the person of your dreams?  If not, then why?  Are you fulfilling your destiny?  If you are truly a transgender person and you are living your birth sex then no you are not fulfilling your destiny. 

This is not something that pops up at the age of 35 or 40 all of sudden.  This is something that has been with you since birth and you have been denying it.  If you have no memory of having gender doubt or feelings of not being in the right body then you are not transgender.  And I mean constantly for years and not just a few times. 

The important thing is to live your life authentically and be true to who you are inside. In order to do this you must be honest with yourself.  And you must get to know yourself.  Some of us are so busy living stereotypes and expectations of others we don’t even know who we are.  Being alone is very important for this and I would suggest taking a camping trip or weekend in a remote place with no electronics.  Simply be with yourself, feel your feelings, write your thoughts down, find things that you enjoy.  How are you creative?  What are your best features?   What would you like to share about yourself with the world? 

Once you figure out who you are, then share that with those closest to you.  Find those who are supportive and be willing to let go of those who are not, and this sometimes means letting go of those closest to you, parents, children, spouses, family.  You deserve to be loved and appreciated for who you are!   Please do not hide from the world.  You are loved and our purpose here is to share that love.  Being Transgender is a gift, just like being a genius or a natural athlete.  If all the above describes you then maybe it is time to transition. 

😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

Unity in Gender Diversity

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4 responses to “Is It Time?

  1. Keri says:

    Thank you Sequioa, for a calming post. I seemingly take two steps forward and one back now, and I grasp onto the remnants of my “maleness” out of fear. It is all I think about, every morning when I wake up, every evening when I try to go to sleep.. and my therapist simply reinforces deep down what I already know.. that I must go forward, must climb the mountain. And with each electro treatment, and HRT coming next month, and people commenting at work about my hair growth, the reality is really setting it… and that is scary.

    • Keri, It sounds like you are headed in the right direction. I just want you to know that you are not alone. While I might not be by your side, you do have other sisters who have gone before you and are happy to lend a hand. My advice is to keep an eye on the “carrot” and keep moving forward. Focus on your inner joy, if you ever look sight of that then it is time to take a break and re-assess.

      Hugs, Sequoia Elisabeth

  2. c0dy c0dfish says:

    Sequoia –

    You have no idea how much I needed to read these words right now. Thank you so much for this, and for all you do. Thank you for sharing your light!


    Cody

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