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Sexual Taboos

on March 20, 2011

A taboo is “proscribed by society as improper or unacceptable behavior.” (Dictionary.com)  Thus, depending on the society, what is acceptable may vary.  Each society has a prescribed set of rules of conduct which evolve over time.  We all follow these constructs either consciously or unconsciously. 

Sex is often a volatile subject which goes way back depending on the founding society concerned.  In the USA, we are very conservative when it comes to issues of sex behavior stemming from our strict Christian foundations.  The sexual revolution of the sixties and beyond has tipped many of societies norms on their proverbial head!  In my humble opinion this is a very good thing although it has come at a price.  Anything surrounded by fear will create challenges.  AIDS was born of this fear!  It will be undone by its opposite, Love. 

A few of the taboos that have been set aside are homosexual sex and polyamorous relationships.  In some more conservative communities these remain taboo, but for the most part (esp. cosmopolitan cities) it is no longer taboo.  The level of acceptance varies by community of course.  Society can be thought of as a tribal consciousness and as this consciousness shifts so do the taboos.  This consciousness will vary by community, but is still connected to the greater whole, like clouds on the horizon. 

The consciousness which you embrace will be the governing factor in your acceptance.  Let’s say you grew up in the Catholic Church which says it is taboo to have same sex intimate relationships, so as long as you remain in that community or consciousness you are bound by those taboos.  Sometimes the community changes to embrace the consciousness of its members.  For example DignityUSA is a catholic LGBT organization which embraces those life styles.  This to me demonstrates the interdependency of the individual with the larger tribal consciousness. 

Polyamorous relationships have been taboo until recently because frankly I don’t think the average person was mature enough.  Polyamorous means having multiple consenting Lovers /intimate relationships.  It means all parties are aware of each other and respect each other’s freedoms.  It means the individuals have to be mature enough not to slip into jealously or possessiveness.  I see this as being common in societies of the future, because it is natural for most humans.  Unfortunately, the ego based ruling society of yesterday did not support this behavior and often suppressed it though the media, education, and social/religious avenues.  However, as your individual consciousness shifts, so does the greater tribal consciousness.  (which came first the chicken or the egg is an ongoing debate that I will not address at this time)

The bottom line here is that we each have choices that we make every day and these choices determine our individual path, but also influence the greater tribal consciousness as well.  If you wish to explore a sexual taboo, then by all means do so, but do so with caution in an environment that is supportive and safe.  If you do a little searching and this is important enough to you, then you will find those who support you. 

Some sexual taboos are still too far out there at this time and cannot be embraced by society at large.  Till the day comes where society is more accepting, there remains constructive methods of dealing with the compulsion to go beyond the law.  Prison is not one of them.  I would suggest contacting a professional sex counselor if you need guidance on these issues.  There is nothing wrong with you or these acts per se, but staying within the law is conducive to a healthy life (for everyone). 

What I do know is that God loves everyone, no matter who they are and no matter what they have done.  Forgiveness comes from within your own heart and is supported by actions that put everyone’s safety first.

 😉 Sequoia Elisabeth

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