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Transvestite Revival

on July 25, 2016

RHPS-SweetTransvestiteSo just what does this word mean, Transvestite? Merriam Webster cites it as: “a person and especially a male who adopts the dress and often the behavior typical of the opposite sex especially for purposes of emotional or sexual gratification.” The last quantifier has not always been associated with this term and explains much of the negativity towards the use of this term. Maybe not as negative as the term Tranny, but close. We could get into why sex is so negative in the USA culture, but suffice it to say it stems from a repressive past that is still with us.

To me the word Transvestite means a male who dresses as a woman with no desire to change their physical body. My official definition on my website reads: “A person who dresses and acts in a style or manner traditionally associated with the opposite sex, often doing this full time.” So if one removes the sexual component we are in agreement. I am a Transvestite! The more friendly term Transgender also describes me, but is it really accurate? I am not so sure it is. The important distinction here is I get no sexual satisfaction from dressing the way I am most comfortable. I have no drive to be with the same birth sex and not much the opposite either these days! I attribute this to the Orchiectomy and no longer taking estrogen. The only time I was sexually attracted to males was when I took estrogen. And this is the way nature meant it to be!! Opposites attract means you will be attracted to the opposite hormone from the one that dominates your system. (There are spiritual explanations for this also, but it would take too long to explain) So many Transgender individuals fail to realize this. And I am sure some will disagree with me. If you are having a different experience then I would say look deeper and consider the possibility of denial. Often the psyche is so good at denial we know not the truth. Question reality, all ways and always! In fact this blog is doing exactly that.

At the end of the day labels fail us, so don’t get too caught up with them. I know what brings me joy and what does not, so this is good enough for me. Try on different terms to see how they fit. Be brave and non-judgmental. I have been afraid of the term Transvestite for so long now, perhaps because it would mean I am homosexual. But upon deep reflection this is simply not so, thus nothing to be afraid of! I am who I am. I love everyone equally to the best of my ability and identify as asexual. This being said, how do you identify? Has this changed over time? What words “get under your skin”? (make you upset). This is where we all need to focus our awareness, for when you shine the light of love upon the darkness (fear) enlightenment is the result.

Sequoia Elisabeth 🙂

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