Exploring Gender Identity

Transition Planning Guide


Transgender Journey – An Outline Guide 

1.       Recognize an inner desire to dress as the opposite gender 

a.       A sense of not being right physically for some

b.       Behavior being of the opposite gender, either you notice this or someone else does

c.       Can occur at any age

2.       Taking action on these desires to “crossdress”

a.       Usually occurs around puberty

b.       Can start at any age

3.       Develop a pattern of crossdressing behavior

a.       Involves many levels of frequency from daily to once a year or less.

b.       Involves many levels of degree from complete dressing to wearing one item

c.       Style of expression varies as much as there are people in the world

d.     This is where it ends for some – those who identify as their birth gender.

4.       Decide that a full time change is desired

a.       Happens frequently at puberty

b.       Can happen at any stage of development

c.       Sometimes suppressed and not addressed till much older, denial is common

d.       Happening earlier and earlier with kids as young as 6-8 allowed to dress opposite to birth sex

5.       Taking action to begin the transition

a.       First step is seeing a therapist or gender specialist and creating a treatment plan

b.       Create a financial plan to cover the expense $50k for MtoF minimum

c.       For FtoM approximately $150k will be needed depending on surgeries

6.       Begin voice training for MtoF, not important for FtoM(vocal cords change with Testosterone)

a.       Many sources on the web

b.       Professional training preferable

c.       Can train your voice so you can change at will, which many crossdressers do.

d.       Takes a lot of practice and up to two years, so don’t worry about happening overnight

7.       Begin hair removal for MtoF

a.       Facial hair removal for MtoF, laser recommended for those with dark hair

b.       Electrolysis is best for light facial hair

c.       Extent of hair removal depends on the person

8.       Begin hormone therapy

a.       Suppressing the existing hormones and taking hormones of the opposite gender

b.       Good idea to start slow and suppress only at first to see how you feel about it.

c.       Hormones help on non-facial hair removal for MtoF, Hair will grow naturally for FtoM 

9.       Decide when to go full time

a.       A plan of action is highly recommended

b.       Name change and documentation updating, before full time preferred

c.       It is recommended that you “go full time” while at your present employer

d.       If it is not possible to transition on the job then develop a plan of action, who to notify

e.       Consider your source of income, because it is often less after, some exceptions in FtoM.

f.         Build wardrobe if necessary, many have clothes from crossdressing days

g.       Do NOT be a big hurry to go full time, enjoy each step of the journey!

10.   Consider Surgery

a.       Depends on the degree of transition that is best for you

b.       Happiness depends on really getting in tune with how far you wish to go

c.       This is where MtoF and FtoM take very different routes, rest of this section covers MtoF

d.       Options to consider, Hair implants if needed, Tracheal shave, FFS(facial Feminization Surgery), Breast augmentation, Orchiectomy(Castration), SRS( Sexual Reassignment Surgery) – {One step vs Two step SRS, Penile inversion, Scrotal skin graft, Abdominal skin graft and Colon section Vaginoplasty} are techniques the surgeon will discuss with you before you schedule surgery. 

e.       Do extensive research before having surgery as this will depend on your health and your purse.  There are no second chances, although revisions are possible.  Many factors to consider so I recommend consulting a professional with experience in these matters. 

f.         Orgasm post-op is a very real expectation so be sure to choose wisely the surgeon you give your life to. 

11.   Post-op life adjustment

a.       Post op life will vary greatly depending on your expectations, lifestyle and pre-op preparation

b.       It is expected to have some grief, but nothing prolonged (months on months)

c.       It is expected to experience euphoria!

d.       There is no “right” way to transition, some ways are easier than others, but what works best for you will depend on many different factors. 

e.       I really recommend getting professional guidance and being in tune with your feelings always and paying attention to your “gut feelings”. 

This is a guide only, and I recommend seeing a professional before making any permanent changes such as taking hormones or pursuing surgery.  We are each responsible for our own actions and I Bless you in your journey of Love.

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